This is a blog post I wrote in May of 2009. I’m reposting it here, because aside from the face that my mother is no longer with us, it still applies. Happy Mother’s Day!
For finding your mother, there’s one certain test. You must look for the creature who loves you the best.
From “Little Miss Spider” by David Kirk
I like this quote, and I certainly find it to be true in my own life and the lives of my children. I have the world’s greatest mother (who doesn’t even know I have a blog lest you think I am buttering her up!) who always made me feel as if I could do anything. I still think that most days. I try to remember all of the things she said to me that made me feel that way, but I can never think of anything specific. The things I remember her saying are things like, What a life, what a war! and Life’s not fair. Hardly the inspiring you to do anything quotes. I suppose it was more in the way she lived, then, always believing in me. She was always happy for my successes, and she never acted surprised over any accolades I might receive. Believe me, I have thought about it in an attempt to recreate that feeling of confidence for my own children. Hopefully, they have gotten a bit of it through osmosis. I remember the day Tony was about 5 or 6 days old, and I was in Hawaii, and Mama hadn’t come out to see me yet. I called her and told her I thought I was wasting time, that I needed to be teaching him something. (can you believe any of my children turned out semi-normal?) She told me I was teaching him that I would always be there when he cried. That is a pretty awesome responsibility, that being there whenever someone cries. I know my mother would still be there for me if I were crying, and I hope my children know the same thing when they are parents, too.
Happy Mother’s Day- tell your mother that you love her if you still can.